Letter of Remorse

The importance of forgiveness is always stressed when someone has been wronged in any regard. The new and improved definition of forgiveness is to accept that the past cannot be changed. That’s acceptable considering that no one can change the past but how many people sit and fantasize about how they would have done things differently if given the chance? Or even replay in their head over and over the desired outcome as if that would erase the true branded memory? Answer: Everyone. I know that life lessons are not always pleasant and when one fails to learn any life lesson, the process begins again and again until the desired knowledge is gained allowing for forward intellectual and spiritual movement. So yes, forgiveness is required but what about remorse? Yes, remorse.

Basically, remorse is regret and I’ve heard many say, “Never regret anything.” Well, those people can suck it because having regret means that you take responsibility for your actions and that you pretty much made a mistake and feel bad for it. In short, you were wrong. I think being able to say out loud and even while looking into a mirror or to the person you offended that you were wrong is just plain honest. And sure, being honest can hurt because growth hurts but again it is all a part of the process of forward intellectual and spiritual movement.

The difficult part of remorse is sincerity. Being sincere is so hard and most people can pick up on insincerity right away. So what do you do? Do you send flowers? Flowers are nice but it is really a form of begging. Verbally degrade yourself so that the person offended can think even less of you? No, ‘cause that’s insincerity at it’s core. Buy a vintage baseball card of the person’s favorite player and present it as a gift? No, still begging. There is nothing that is equivalent to sincere remorse except sincere remorse. So this is my offer:

I love you. I’ve always loved you. I think the world of you. In fact, you are a bit of a muse for me, which is most likely why I’m so drawn to you in the first place. You have always inspired me to do better and I was totally wrong in my actions that hurt you directly. I wish you nothing less than love, success and happiness.